In the song, I Can’t Get Over You by The Script: “I can’t get over you even when I try and that’s what kills me.” This line is the perfect example of how the drama from a breakup has gripped your life. It’s not just about the pain; it’s also about getting to know yourself again. These are 11 tips on how we as humans can find ourselves again after a breakup or divorce.
Sleep more – Take care of yourself and your body. You may not feel like it, but the truth is that when we are asleep our minds can process things better than they do while we’re awake.
Get plenty of exercise – The endorphins released by the brain during a workout will help to make you happy (even if just temporarily). Plus, the release of stress hormones which cause us to overeat will be decreased allowing for healthier eating habits.
Find an outlet for creativity – Whether painting or singing in the shower, find something creative to keep your mind busy with other thoughts besides what’s going on at home right now.
Spend time with friends and family – Being around people who care about you and who will listen to the things that bother you is really important.
Keep up with your favorite hobbies – While this probably isn’t something that excites you right now, it’s always good to have an escape from reality in one form or another.
Find a therapist if possible – If none of these methods are working for you, there may be other forms of therapy available. Therapy can help identify patterns and thoughts which cause us angst so we can change them into more healthy behavior patterns.
Sleep More: Sleep quality has been shown to improve mood by as much as 50%. With less sleep deprivation, people are better able at coping with stressors and therefore reduce their risk for depression and anxiety disorders.
Exercise More: Exercise has been shown to improve mood, reduce the risk of depression and produce a more positive outlook on life.
Making time for exercise is surprisingly hard when you have other obligations such as work or children. But if we make it a priority, not only will our physical health be improved but our mental well being too!
Gradually increase the intensity – Starting with low impact exercises like yoga can help ease into exercising regularly without pain or injury. Try breathing deeply while stretching each muscle group twice in order from head to toe before releasing said muscles and swapping out another one. This should take about 15 minutes depending on your needs and goals so don’t worry about counting reps just yet!
Keep an exercise journal – It’s hard to remember the details of a workout if you don’t write it down. Write down what exercises you did, how many times and sets, your weights or machines used, time spent exercising in minutes or hours and the difficulty level for each exercise.
Make a plan with accountability partners – Find someone else who is just starting their fitness journey as well so that they can keep each other motivated! You’ll also have built-in support when sticking to the regimen becomes difficult because now there will be two people counting on it at all times. This person may also provide encouragement during tough workouts which could mean an increase in motivation overall!
Find the right workout for you – Now that you know what kind of person you are, think about how your personality relates to a certain workout. For example, if you’re outgoing and competitive then maybe boxing is the best fit!
Set realistic goals – Goals should be attainable so don’t set unrealistic expectations for yourself in order to avoid being disappointed when they aren’t met or as motivation wears off. Talk with friends who have fitness experience about their own experiences so that there can be somebody on hand to offer advice and support along the way. Don’t forget to reward yourself too! It’s important not only because it provides emotional gratification but also because rewards act as encouragement at times when progress seems hard to come by. The reward might be as simple as going for a walk or taking the stairs instead of the elevator.
Start slow – Whether you’re just starting to work out or are getting back into it after some time off, ease your way in by easing up on intensity and duration so that your muscles can recover from any muscle soreness. If lifting weights is new to you, start with something light like a weight vest before moving onto heavier weights.
Stay motivated – Motivation comes and goes but rather than waiting around for inspiration try making small changes such as swapping workouts every few days or choosing high intensity interval training over easy endurance running if you think boredom is setting in. Consider using an online fitness tracker which offers both encouragement along the way via dashboard.